what you see is what you get, or is it?

women, do not ever expect a man to change when you marry him. what you are dating is what you should assume you are choosing to spend your life with. if he doesn't have self-motivation before the wedding - it's not going to suddenly appear after the wedding. if he plays a lot of video games before? he's not going to give it all up just because he now has a ring on his finger and a wife at his side.

men! do not expect that a women will NOT change. the women you are dating is not the women that you are choosing to spend your life with. she could be someone different every year from here on out.  you may get glimpses of the girl you asked to marry you.. but that's not who was at the alter with you, nor who will bear your children, nor who you will sit on the porch and grow old with.

so good luck.